The one he protects

A long long time ago, a close family friend asked me if we could start going out. I was skeptical because i had never really thought of us in a romantic way but i agreed to it. We started hanging out at his office and basically at home. Nothing serious though.

About a week later, i was in kind of a bind because as part of the caravan sales i was working on, i had gotten late to return to Nairobi from Tala and i found myself at 11pm in Nairobi Town, those days i lived in Wanyee and it was not safe to walk around at such an hour. Also, my earnings were meagre and i could not afford a taxi home. I called my brother so we could go home together and luckily, he was in town at Club Soundd. I went to meet him. Incidentally, he was with the aforesaid pal, he with his date and Pal with his x-girlfriend. I was too tired to fuss about anything and just waited for them until they were ready to leave.

Shock of all shock, all five of us ended up at our house and the four of them holed up in my brothers room. Needless to say, the romance that had been starting up was OVER!

The next day, as i mused over the situation it occured to me that THE ONE HE CHOOSES TO PROTECT is really the important one. That night, my Pal had no regard for my feelings and had not shown his x that he was trying to date me, he had instead chosen to carry on with her. This lesson served me very well for many years even with my friends and their relationships.

Here is how to apply it.

• Are you dating someone who has an Ex that is very a very close friend to him? or
• Does your boyfriend have a current girlfriend that he has promised to dump? or
• Does he have a wife whom he claims is no good and that he isn’t happy with her?

If you know all about her and she knows nothing about you, then he is protecting her and therefore she is the important one and not you. He doesn’t mind hurting your feelings by talking to you about her but cannot bear to hurt her by telling her about you. She is the one he cannot loose. So now you know.

Psalms 2:20 Save me, Lord, from lying lips and from deceitful tongues.