I have carried you with me, as though we were always meant to be as close as we once were. Unfortunately, the wisdom of time has come to me and I realise that its time to let go.
I will be the first to admit that you are greatly disadvantaged to have me as a friend. I say this because God has blessed me with an abundance of sisters who 
are ever so close and therefore are effortlessly my best friends. This of course means that I have to work at my friendships and also have friends who are not emotionally needy as I may not be able to provide as required.
I have had friends and relatives who for a time were the best and closest ever had, but over time, we both found other more pressing things to attend to and soon fell out of contact and out of relevance. Although it hurts to admit it, it is far easier than to occasionally have a twinge of guilt every few months for not having called or kept up with each other.
I have always lived by the words “I don’t do one sided friendships” and what that means to me is that
- As long as we both put the effort and keep up with each other then its okay. If we both keep quiet, when one calls, I expect the conversation to go like “Hi dear, its been so long since we spoke, hope you are doing great” and not like “My dear, you don’t call me anymore?” as if the onus of calling lies on one party.
- You don’t only call when you need something. Its enough to just say hello.
- I don’t have to guess what is on your mind, you actually speak it out even when you feel that I may have hurt you.
- You have the maturity, security and wisdom to know your place in my life and not to second guess every action I do or don’t do.
- Friendship means being relevant and there for someone, if you can go through hardship, good times and life altering events without including me, then we just aren’t close.
- Friendship also means setting aside our pride. It doesn’t matter who called who last. In a real and relevant friendship, people don’t notice such things.
I hate to lose friends and it hurts to do so but the reality is that people are only as relevant in your life as they choose to be and often times, its easier for those in close proximity to us to play more relevant roles as they are conveniently available. When we have to work at it, that’s when the true test of friendship is felt.
So for all who feel let down by others, I urge you to look in the mirror and own your 50% part of it, shrug it off and move on and be happy. There will always be people in your life, and only time reveals their longevity or relevance.
Luke 11:5 – Then, teaching them more about prayer, he used this story: “Suppose you went to a friend’s house at midnight, wanting to borrow three loaves of bread. You say to him, 6 ‘A friend of mine has just arrived for a visit, and I have nothing for him to eat.’ 7 And suppose he calls out from his bedroom, ‘Don’t bother me. The door is locked for the night, and my family and I are all in bed. I can’t help you.’ 8 But I tell you this—though he won’t do it for friendship’s sake, if you keep knocking long enough, he will get up and give you whatever you need because of your shameless persistence.[
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